Why is it the people who use the biggest word and say the most have the least interesting things to say. Okay, to be fair this is not true with all of them. But, when it's obvious the statements are designed to make the stater appear more interesting or more intelligent, well, someone needs to put a stop to that.
If you can not feel special without begging for it, someone is not doing their job. Woops, now we have to step back and look at it from another side. I have someone important to me who uses a lot of big words. They tell a lot of stories. They know a lot of things and like to share. They do it the most when they are feeling insignificant or uncomfortable. It's a coping mechanism of sorts. How do I, as their friend, help them to not feel that way? If they are important to me isn't it my job?
Truthfully, I find this aspect of this person not unappealing. It's part of who they are and I love them because of it. I see, when I stand outside the situation, that they can get on others nerves. Really, if you ask me why I don't talk alot, it's because I can see that I get on others nerves. This person can see that they do as well. They assume they will get on everyone's nerves at one time or another. How do I convince them this isn't true.
My previous attempts were utter failures. I made this person feel more unspecial than they felt before. I also made them feel dumb. They aren't dumb. They are amazing. I love to hear them talk. I learned so much from them. I can now say something in most cases and if you ask me where I learned that fact I can tell you it was from this person. I am bothered that the rest of society has made this person feel that they are unwanted, unneeded, undesirable. To me they are very wanted, VERY needed, and very desirable. But, I never got that across before. And now it is to late. I hope someone else in their life can show them how special they really are.
It's not the big words. It's not the information. It's not the things they can bring to the table. It's them, they are special, they are amazing. I think I'll go into the corner in pout out of self pity now.
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